Let's start by explaining Sexperts.
Sam: We're a peer-advising group that promotes positive and open forms of sexual expression. We basically talk about sexual issues -- healthy sexual expression, communication, sexuality -- and we're a resource on campus if people want to talk to their peers. We also do programming: our Sex Toy Party, the Sex Fest. We've done a lot for UGA's and Greek houses.
Allison: For example, we had an ice cream social for the freshmen during Orientation. We had free condoms, information about condoms, lube tasting. It wasn't a venue where people just sat down and learned. It was to get the message out that sexuality is okay and that we should discuss it.
What misconceptions do people have about Sexperts?
A: One comment I get a lot is, 'Don't you guys just promote loose sex?' No, not at all, we promote educated sexual decisions. We're a very open-minded group, so if you want to have lots of sex, that's great. But we also have Sexperts who have never had sex.
S: The question I've gotten the most that I think is so funny is, "So, are you really good at sex?" That's so awkward. How do I respond to that? You brush the shoulder, "Yeah, I'm a Sexpert."
A: I'm sooo good.
S: I'm sooo good, you don't even know my tricks [laughs].
What misconceptions do people have about sex?
A: Anatomy-related misconceptions always bother me. I think it's really obnoxious when boys think girls only have two holes instead of three. Or like, that girls can't get pregnant when they're on top.
S: Because of gravity! There are also more serious assumptions like, "No one at Dartmouth has STD's, because we're all good kids," which is a lie.
A: The biggest lie ever.
What one piece of advice would you give to help people have better sex?
S: Communication. Absolutely communication. Don't be afraid to ask, don't be afraid to have someone show you, don't be afraid to pipe up. You can educate yourself online, you can talk to friends "
A: If you want to have great sex, make sure to tell the person exactly what you want. Otherwise it's just going to be 'mehh.' And there's no point in having 'mehh' sex, it's just a waste of time. Positive feedback is great -- you feel like a champ. Positive reinforcement, like, 'Oooh, I really like it when you do that, want to try this? That's great!' As Stimmel says, 'Think cheerleader.'
S: And don't be afraid to be adventures. Explore. Don't be afraid to ask to push it a little bit if you want to.
A: You can try different positions "
S: Different locations "
A: The Green "
S: Dartmouth Seven "
A: Those are difficult. It's harder to have great sex when you're doing it as fast as you fcking can. Haha -- "fcking."
What about Dartmouth's sex culture would you change?
A: Well, I remember Stimmel and I once had a conversation in the middle of Collis about bikini waxes with six girls. One of my friends was like, 'Oh my god, we're in the middle of Collis, we can't talk about this!' But it's totally okay, no one's listening.
S: And so what if they are?
Any sex-related advice for Greek organizations?
A: They should ask Sexperts to come. We have this thing called the Great Condom Offer where organizations or houses can order a box of a thousand condoms. That's awesome, everyone should do it if they want or need it. Okay, not everyone ...
Best thing about being a Sexpert?
S: Helping people learn what they need to, and comfortably. A great conversation that I had really recently was some guys asking me do women actually masturbate. It kind of blew their minds when I said, "Absolutely, some women do it every day, multiple times a day." It totally blew their minds.
A: I think it's really rare to find a woman who does multiple times a day. Where do you get the time? I have to find a job!
Closing thoughts?
A: Can we do the sex position of the week? It's called "The T". It's really good for a heterosexual relationship, or for a girl and a girl with a strap on. The girl lies on her back and the guy lies perpendicular on his side, and straddles one leg. that way he can get a deep penetration for g-spot stimulation and can also rub her clitoris at the same time. Would you like a demonstration?
S: We can't do a demonstration on the Green!
A: It doesn't bother me.
S: You're right, it doesn't bother me either.
